Welcome back to Part 2 of 10 Things to Give Up if you want to be a SAHM. Did you read part 1? If not, you can read it here. Go and read it first, it might be handy! Otherwise, here are the next 5 things to give up if you want to be a stay at home mom.
10 Things to Give Up If You want to be a SAHM
Here are the next 5 things in my list, that you will need to let go of, if you are seriously considering giving up your job to be a stay at home mom.
6- Beauty Products
Now this one is going to cause a whole lot of you ladies reading this to get angry with me, but just hear me out first.
I don’t mean entirely, just cut back on what you are using. I can get by with a mascara and an eye-liner, and then I rarely use some eye-shadow if the need calls for it. OK, I have never been crazy about make-up so this is probably easier for me than for you. You can also try using cheaper brands!
This list includes but is not limited to nail polishes, mani’s and pedi’s, expensive hair products like treatments/colours/high-lights, salon days etc. I could go on! Just choose a few things that you couldn’t live without and stick to those things. You will be surprised by how little you actually need!
Since giving up my job I have learned how to cut mine and my husbands hair. The only hair I can’t cut belongs to our wriggly worm!
Oh, this is a hard one! This one was really difficult for us. We never used to go out much, but we always did fun things with our friends, which ended up costing quite a fair bit, if you added it all up. Rugby tickets here and there, a braai with beer and wine, games evenings with dinners and snacks. It all had to go! There is definitely no more space in our budget for things like that.
Gone are the days of going to the movies or playing a round of golf!
If we hang out with friends now, it is home made muffins for tea or something similar to that.
Giving up “fancy.” What does that even mean?
Well, it means that you have to be ok with simple. It means that plain, functional and wholesome must come first.
I am specifically talking about food, clothing, cars, houses etc. We have to give up the fancy stuff to make sure that there is room in our budgets for the necessary things. We don’t need to be driving fancy cars that cost a fortune when a smaller, cheaper car will still provide the same functionality. Do you see where I am going with this? The fancy stuff has got to go! It is just too wasteful of precious resources when you are trying to maximise every last cent.
9- Big Gifts
This is something that our family and friends have just had to come to terms with. We have had to learn how to lavishly love our friends and family with very small offerings.
Whenever possible, we don’t give birthday gifts any more. If we absolutely have to give a gift, then I will hand make it or bake it or something similar.
I am not saying “Don’t be generous.”
I am saying “Use your resources well!”
Just in case you were wondering, I take R100 of our monthly budget every month and put it towards Christmas Presents and Christmas spending. That way, at the end of the year, we have R1200 and that is our Christmas budget. Everyones presents and anything else we need to buy at that time, have to come out of that. It is the one time of year when we will buy a six-pack of beers for my husband and a bottle of wine for me and have a bit of a splurge on “frivolous” items.
10- Wanting More
A huge part of your success or failure as a stay at home mom will be your ability to put aside your wants for the future. (Yes, wants – not needs!) It is so important that you are able to find contentment where you are and with what you have.
This world we live in will constantly have us wanting more of what we can’t afford. Better cars and houses, a more beautifully decorated house. It shouts at us that we need to do more, be more, be better than the next person, have more stuff and always be going after the next “big thing.”
To pull off being a stay at home mom, you actually have to have the ability to shut it all out. You have to give up wanting more and learn to love what you have.
I really hope that you have enjoyed reading this 2 part post. It has actually been a great reminder for me of how much we are giving up and how much sacrifice is needed to be a SAHM.
It’s not going to be worth it for everyone, and that’s ok. But for me, there is nothing I wouldn’t give up to be at home with my baby.
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